KidsAudiologist

Making listening & communicating easier at Christmas

Posted on: December 21, 2011

Christmas is that time of year when we traditionally eat too much, exchange presents, and get extended family and friends together. Whilst I’m not going to attempt any dietary or present buying advice, there may be readers who are going to be joining family or friends with a deaf or hearing impaired child in the family. You may not normally get to spend a lot of time with them or maybe they were very tiny the last time you saw them. The following tips will help make communication easier and more enjoyable for you both…

  • Most children who have hearing difficulty will use all kinds of visual clues to help them make sense of what is being said. They will watch your facial expressions and body language, and they may be watching your lips closely (lip-reading). So it’s really important to make sure you have the child’s attention before starting to talk, keep facing the child and try to maintain good eye contact. Try to get down on the same level as them so that they don’t have to look up to you all the time. And if you’re playing together allow some space so that they can see your face clearly. At Christmas the fairy lights can be very pretty and atmospheric but if a child has a hearing loss they won’t easily be able to follow what’s being said in a dark room so try to keep the lights on when you’re talking. And try not to stand with your back to a window as this creates shadow and makes it difficult to read your facial expressions or lipread.
  • Santa may be a lovely fellow who brings some great presents but with that bushy white beard he’s impossible to lip-read. If you’re sporting facial hair consider a festive trim. And don’t try to talk to the child at the same time as munching your way through the mince pies and Quality Street, or when hiding behind the Christmas edition of the Radio Times.
  • Background noise makes it really hard for a hearing impaired child to follow your speech and conversation in groups can be impossible. Since there’s probably going to be lots of conversation  going on around the dinner table try to make sure that any background noise that can be turned off, such as the looped CD of Christmas songs, is.  Make sure members of the group speak one at a time and visually indicate when a different person is speaking so that the child can keep up.
  • When you’re talking there’s no need to shout. This will distort your lip patterns but more importantly appear to the child that you are angry with them, potentially setting up yet another generation of traditional Christmas family feuding. So speak clearly, naturally and at a normal pace.
  • Mostly though, don’t give up! They may not know all the words you use so try a different word with the same meaning and use gestures to show what you mean. Encourage them to tell you if they don’t  understand.

However you celebrate, I wish you a very enjoyable festive period and happy New Year!

If you’re reading this after Christmas, why not contact the NDCS for a copy of their flyer or poster of tips Communicating with deaf children without references to slightly dysfunctional family dynamics (which may have more to do with the authors own rather than widespread experiences).

 

 

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